Like most human beings, I’m not immune to catching a case of “the feels”. But I’m going to put it out there and say that I’m a real feeler. And no, not in a creepy “I touch your stuff” kind of way, but in a “I really absorb other people’s feelings” way. Essentially, you could compare me to the emotional equivalent of a highly absorbent kitchen towel — trust me when I say I am really great company.
For the longest time I just blamed myself for my hyper-sensitive existence. Just like Spider-Man had been bitten and bestowed with his “Spidey Sense”, I’d been blessed (?) with a faulty feeling detector that someone had accidentally set to “extra sensitive”. But it turns out I can cut myself some slack because moods and feelings really are contagious.
According to a study conducted by the Royal Society of Open Science, the vibes of others really do have the power to ruin, or improve your mood. And while the study was conducted on adolescents, it’s still relevant to our adult lives. The study found evidence that “vibes” (you know, those invisible feeling emission things) really do have the power to be socially catching. So in the same way some diseases can spread with contact, moods can spread across groups in a form of social contagion.
So while I’ve come to learn I’ve got to take responsibility for boosting my compromised “feeling immunity”, I’m not the only one catching what other people are putting out there.
Prioritising the company you choose to keep has never been more important (time to reassess those toxic friendships you might be hanging onto) and since they say, misery really does love company — I’m sure you won’t judge me for ghosting misery from now on?